Sunday, May 20, 2012

Another confession: My marriage

So now that you all have read a few posts about how much I love my husband and how much I appreciate him, I have a confession to make.

Sometimes, we are boring. Yep, I said it. Sometimes, we are a really boring married couple. Take last night for example. After I came back from a baseball game with my mom, LoLo was out in the driveway working on his car. I was inside working on my blog. After maybe 2 hours, LoLo came inside and said he was hungry. We went out for some dinner (to our credit, we actually tried somewhere new...we usually go to one of the same few spots every time because LoLo is definitely a creature of habit). As soon as we got home, I came upstairs to watch the rest of the Red Sox game and LoLo stayed in his cave man (that's how he says man cave if you're new around these parts) watching Anime.

I would like to say this is not a typical Saturday night for us, but sadly I cannot. Sure, about one Saturday a month we go out with friends and actually stay out past 10pm (omg when did I get so old? When I lived in NY I was still in my apartment getting ready to go out at 10pm!!). But lots of times, we stay in this rut and just do what's easiest: stay home and watch two different tvs in two different rooms because we can barely ever agree on what show to watch.

Sometimes I wish we were more adventurous and that LoLo would be more daring and try new places with me. Sometimes I wish he'd plan a date with me that didn't just end as soon as he was done eating. And sometimes, I just want to get dressed up and go somewhere that they don't serve anything with buffalo sauce on it.

Don't get me wrong, I'm a homebody and I enjoy being home cuddling with my puppy. I think though, successful marriages are built on keeping things fresh. Surprising your partner with something completely out of the ordinary. Coming up from the cave man and watching an episode of "Giuliana and Bill". Putting on a button down shirt and some nice jeans and those Dominican shoes I love and going to that restaurant I've been talking about for over a year. Bringing my computer down to the cave man to work on my blog while he watches his anime (I love how hard he laughs when he watches it anyway). Go to the movies with him even though we both know I will always fall asleep.

Marriage takes effort from both people. We've been married almost 3 years and together for almost 6. We know each other better than we know anyone else in the world. Sometimes it feels like there's nothing else we can learn about each other,  but I know that's not true. We are lucky to have found each other and to actually really enjoy each other. We can't be complacent and rely on our love to keep our relationship exciting. It just doesn't work like that. 

I've got to go though, there's a really cute boy in my basement right now and his laugh is completely infectious.


Ariel Tyler Henley said...

such a beautiful picture!

Lacey in the City said...

I love that last sentence! And I love that you wrote it about you making the effort as well as takes two I guess, right! I hope you had a great time sitting next to LoLo tonight while you blogged and he laughed at his anime :)

Katie Price said...

Sometimes marriage can be a little boring, but when you get to crawl into bed every night with the man you love, it's doesn't matter.