Right before this clip, Samantha was complaining about not being able to get into a private pool a block from her house. But instead of letting her complain, Carrie just haaaaaaaaad to change the subject to herself.
Really Carrie? Can we please just go through one conversation without having to talk about you?
I definitely have had really close friends who did this. And the whole time I was friends with them, I wondered to myself, "When is it ever about me?" (Take that! I have a blog that's ALL about me!)
The "friends" I've had that have been the most selfish have mostly been from New York City. In all seriousness, the sociologist in me wonders if this is a New York phenomenon. Think about it. 8 million people crammed into a tiny area. If you aren't selfish, you won't be able to grab the "scarce" resources (a seat on the train for example). Being selfish is a survival technique. Now I'm not saying all New Yorkers are like that, but I've just found that what many call the "New York Attitude" may be caused by a need to be selfish in order to survive. I know I had that attitude when I lived there.
Don't get me wrong, I love talking about myself. We all do. But at what point does it become selfish and inconsiderate?
Have we turned into a society of self-loving, if it's not about me I don't care, I want it and I want it now monsters? Are there so few people left in the world who actually care about others that we've come to accept selfishness as the norm?
The next time you find yourself in a conversation with your friends, stop yourself for a minute and think about how much you've actually listened. How much have you asked about their lives? How many times did you change the subject back to yourself a la Carrie Bradshaw?
Oh and because I feel the need to talk about myself and a day when I really do make it all about me, my birthday is in exactly a week!!